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I have this friend I known since 2003, evr since then I've been helping him out with food, letting him use my phone, and taking him places around town, but it came to mind that I think he using me for all those things cuz I'm a nice person and he knows I won't say no. I sat down and told him to stop but he keeps using my phone for about 1 hr at a time per phone call when he comes over, I told him 10 or 15 minuts is cool but staying on the phone the entire time while over here is fucked up cuz I'm thinking he came to see me after all I invited him over, you know, so what should I do
Oh I forgot to mention whenever I gave him money or paid for his food at restaurants he never paid me back for anything I help him out with either
Ok! I always do this and it really works, and thisis why it takes me sooo long to trust someone. I never or borrow my phone barely. I don't give out that much money. i mean people start to gain confidence and thus take excesive advantage of your friendship and you are no longer a friend, you become into a bank account, phone and stuff. So my suggestion would be to just stop letting him use the phone, and stop giving him money to a point in which your friend will realize it. In some cases, they could turn their back towards you, but don't worry, you still have more and better friends. So, therefore, my conclusion is that I would rather have someone mad at me than someone purloining stuff from me.
thanks Louiano highly appreciated
that's bullshit that you've got to deal with that shit, perhaps just not let him in next time,
yankee g
The hold deel is boundries just set boundries and if he ops not to follow those then just cut things off with this guy for a little wile and see if they chainge
Maybe I got this feeling since i'm being used he could very well be talking shit behind my back as well, I sat him down a long time ago and told him the ground rules which he didn't grasp vry well, I may just cut him off like I did CantSee3p0 when he pulled his shit cuz I knew him for the same amount of time personally as well, he pulled thw same exact shit this guy is doing basically but this guy comes back and apologize for it though but I don't know if he can't stay true to his words maybe cutting him off will be the best thing ever, I hate being used and fucked over, I should've done this along time ago cutting him off. The thing is about me I like to try and work things out with those I got problems with which is why I haven't done so probably, CantSee3p0 on the other hand kept on bringing up shit that had happened in the past, and I hate bringing up shit that is done and over with. Do yall think I'm stupid for the way I feel.
hey Chris
I read your post and no I think the way you feel is normal for how he is treating you , I've been in your position many of times, and I know how hard it is to cut ties off with someone that you've been so nice to and accepting of. Well guess that's all for me.
Heavy Metal Girl 85
I think if he is really using you, hen you should cut him off Chris, if you feel that that is all he wants you for, then just let him go, he's not worth it.
I agree. Though it will be hard, you can't let him use you like that because he'll never stop and it may get worse. I wouldn't believe his appologies at all. Talk to him, explain why you're angry with him and say "if rthis doesn't stop, I don't know that I can stay your friend" and if it continues, then end it. It has to be done sometimes.
Well, what I think you should do is, invite him over, and when he asks you if he can use your phone tell him it's broken, and if he wants food or money tell him you haven't got any, then I'm sure he'll all of a sudden conveniently find something he should be doing elsewhere, I rest my case.
just kick his ass
he sounds like that's what he needs
I have a friend like this, always messing up my house and never cleaning up her mess, and always using me for money, it's crap and I'm tired of it. I always say no to people that want to use me for my phone, I even told someone once that they could borrow it only if they paid my bill lol.
Troy
I have a friend like this, always messing up my house and never cleaning up her mess, and always using me for money, it's crap and I'm tired of it. I always say no to people that want to use me for my phone, I even told someone once that they could borrow it only if they paid my bill lol.
Troy
I have a friend like this, always messing up my house and never cleaning up her mess, and always using me for money, it's crap and I'm tired of it. I always say no to people that want to use me for my phone, I even told someone once that they could borrow it only if they paid my bill lol.
Troy